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You may see things differently, but this is how I view my life.



David and I had a great Valentine’s Day together. We celebrated on the Friday before Valentine’s Day because it would have been to hard to get together on the actual day.

I met him at his place and we exchanged our gifts. I was planning on waiting, but he’s like a little kid at Christmas! I got him a gift set of Kenneth Cole Black, a nice card, and a Valentine’s Day teddy bear. He gave me a hot pink heart shaped vase, a card, some Love Altoids, and something that I’ve been wanting for a long time, a sterling silver lock necklace from my favorite jewelry store… Tiffany’s! He had ordered Sushi, so we went and picked it up and brought it back to his place, lit candles and opened a bottle of wine that I’ve been saving from Christmas.

We had a romantic night of Sushi, Wine and great lovemaking. He is truly perfect in my eyes. It’s not the gifts or anything else that makes me feel special. It’s the little things he does that makes my heart pound. I catch him staring at me smiling when we’re watching TV, or when he’s holding me; he gives me kisses on the top of my head. He’s also very playful, and we have the best tickle fights. Those are the moments that I love the most.

We’ve talked about me & the kids moving in, and I won’t do it until I get a ring on my finger. I was hoping that I would get that ring on V-Day or our 6 month anniversary which is coming up on March 4, but because he’s in the process of buying a condo, and is in escrow, that won’t be happening until escrow closes.

I also won’t move until the kids finish their school year. My daughter will be graduating 6th grade, and they have a formal dance and graduation ceremony, which she can’t miss. Anyways, that gives me more time to get to know David better and see if there are any issues that may develop between us, since there hasn’t been one single fight yet. Just a discussion about something I don’t even remember other than it was about nothing bad. He never raised his voice at me, I could just tell he was upset. He is so mild tempered and easy going, that it would take a lot to get him really upset.
My kids know that I’m planning on moving in with David after we get engaged and they finish their school year. I’ve talked to them about how they are going to have to change schools and get new friends and I know it’s not going to be easy, because it’s not going to be easy for me either. I’m going to have to find a new job and make new friends too. But I know I’ll be happy for the rest of my life with David. The kids will eventually adjust. I went through it when I was 15, so I understand how they would feel. It really sucked. All I can do is be there for them.


V Day

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and I can’t wait to see what I’m getting! Of course I’m wishing for the ring that will promise his eternal love to me, but I’m not expecting that, since he’s in escrow and can’t make any purchases on credit.

A lot of people think of Valentine’s Day as a day for retailers to capitalize on peoples love for one another, so that they buy that special someone elaborate gifts. Hey! I’m all for it! Especially if I’m the recipient of such elaborate gifts from my sweetie. I think the people who boycott Valentine’s Day are either cheap or don’t have a sweetie.

We aren’t going to celebrate V. Day on the actual V. Day this year, since it falls on Monday and it’s too hard for us to get together on Monday’s. We’ll celebrate on Friday, and I can only dream of what he’s got planned. Hopefully, something from Tiffany’s, food and some steaming, hot lovin’! That would make me a very happy girl. Of course getting a ring would ultimately make me the happiest girl!

I’m sure you wondering what I intend on getting my hunny. He doesn’t want me to get him anything, since he knows I’m a little strapped for cash. But that’s just not like me. I’ll eat Top Ramen for a week, if it means that I could do something for someone I love to make him happy. Honestly, I’m kind of torn between getting him the cologne he wants or getting some “special” items for a hot night of love making. I would love to get them all, but like I said, I’m a little strapped, so I don’t really know yet. I’ll figure it out just in time though. Maybe, I’ll get him the smaller bottle of cologne, and spend the rest of what I was going to spend, on a few love items. There! I just figured it out!

Hope everybody had a Hot and Steamy Valentine’s Day!


Betrayed by my Boss

I’m totally frustrated with my job. I’ve been the Marketing Assistant for 4 years now, and I feel totally betrayed by my boss. Here’s what’s going on…..

On February 28, the mall I work for was bought by a new company. The title I was given initially was “Assistant Marketing Manager”. I was stoked because I had the word “Manager” in my title and I knew that would look good on a resume, should I ever decide to seek new employment. Well, shortly after, they took the title away, and the reason I was told that I can’t have the “Assistant Marketing Manager” title, is because I don’t have a college education. I accepted that, and started school in August to get my degree.

About 4 months ago, my company purchased a mall about 35 miles away, and they didn’t have a Marketing Manager at that property, so they assigned me and my boss to handle the marketing for that mall as well. So, I’ve been working for two malls for the past 4 months. My boss really needs someone at the other mall full time, because the receptionist that is helping us, sucks! My boss placed an ad in the local paper for an Assistant Marketing Manager. Since I update both malls websites, and post job opportunities, I posted the ad that was placed in the local newspaper on the website. The ad stated “College Degree Preferred” it didn’t say “REQUIRED”. So that got me thinking.

Resumes from applicants started coming in, and sure enough, a lot of the applicants didn’t have college educations. Then she’s called the applicants in for interviews, and she was interviewing applicants with out college educations. I’ve been keeping my cool the entire time about it, and asking about what she thought about so-in-so. Her top pick so far is someone who graduated High School in 1999, and hasn’t attended college.

I’m just waiting to see if they hire her, and then I’m going to bring it up. I know I’m going to be training this person, and I don’t think it’s fair for someone to just step into that role, with less experience than I have, and I’ve put in my time with the company, and then some.

I can understand if the reason is because I have a terrible habit of being late for work. I’ll be the first to admit, that’s something I really need to work on. But my whole point is that’s not the reason I was told I couldn’t have that title. I was told that I don’t have a College Education, therefore, I can not have the Assistant Marketing Manager title. If they told me, you can have that title if you do A, B, and C (with none of those reasons being going to school), I would totally do my best to accomplish those tasks.

Now my feeling about it is, when I confront by boss about it, if she try’s to comeback and say, well, your late all the time… then I’m going to say, “That’s not the reason you told me why I couldn’t have that title, if that was the real reason, I should have been told that and I would of tried harder. But after I was told I couldn’t have the title because I don’t have a degree in Marketing, I started taking classes that are costing me almost $1,500 per class and frankly, I’m really upset about the whole situation”.

I know I won’t be here past June, but I’ve spent 4 years as her assistant and I think I deserve a little recognition for all the hard work I do for her. I’m not asking for more money, even though that would be nice, I’m just asking for a stupid title that tells me we recognize your hard work and dedication for the past 4 years, here’s a stupid “Assistant Marketing Manager” title for you to put on your resume. Is that really too much to ask?
What would you do?


Agreeing to Disagree

Tomorrow will be me and David’s 5 month anniversary! What’s amazing to me is that we have hardly had any disagreements. And the disagreements that we’ve had were just un-heated discussions about our feelings and opinions. He didn’t get mad, I didn’t get mad, it was awesome! I just love how he doesn’t get easily frustrated or angry. He’s a go-with-the-flow kind of guy and even though he didn’t agree with me, he didn’t get mad about our difference of opinion.

This is how it’s supposed to be. If you have a difference of opinion, you have enough respect for your partner to not get mad, but to talk about your differences, share your views and opinions, and most importantly….NOT YELL AT YOUR PARTNER ABOUT IT! If you can’t come to some sort of agreement or compromise, then you agree to disagree and leave it at that.
Being able to do this takes a level of maturity that most people don’t have. I’m not saying that I’m the most mature person, because let me tell you, as soon as the other person starts raising their voice, I do it right back. I’m just saying that it’s nice to have someone in my life with such a calm demeanor, and can talk about things without getting upset. And this my friends, is one of the most important things for me to have in a relationship and one of the many reasons why I’m going to marry this guy!